Has someone you had counted on ever broken your trust? People who have experienced this know how hurtful it can be. Whether it be telling people a small secret that you didn’t want everybody to know, or something that has bigger repercussions, such as being cheated on, betrayal can often be difficult for people to deal with alone.
‘Betrayal’ can be defined as the act of violating somebody’s trust or deserting them, especially in a time of need. Being betrayed by someone you thought you could
unconditionally rely on can be heartbreaking.
If you’ve recently been betrayed by someone and are feeling lost, these steps can help you
navigate through this tough time and gain clarity on your thoughts and emotions:
➔ Create some distance:
It is important to give yourself space from the person who has betrayed you in order to clear your thoughts. However, try not to avoid or ignore them and instead, be honest and tell them you need to be alone for some time so that you don’t say or do things you will later regret.
➔ Allow yourself to feel hurt:
Recognize your emotions and understand that it’s
completely valid to feel upset or angry. Being let down by a close friend or loved one
is very difficult to deal with, so be empathetic towards yourself.
➔ Express your emotions :
Talk to the person who has wronged you and let them know
how you feel. Try to explain to them how they’ve hurt you. If you think confronting
them might start a fight or put you in an unsafe situation, it is better to express your
feelings in other ways. Try reaching out to a friend or professional who you can talk
➔ Ponder about the future of your relationship:
Once you gotten past the initial stage of extreme emotions, it might be time to think about your relationship with the person who has betrayed you. Visualize a future where you are your best self and are completely at peace and in tune with your emotions. Does this future include the person who has wronged you? Consider if it would be possible for you to forgive this person if what they did was unintentional. You do not have to forgive them yet if you
aren’t ready to, but ask yourself if you might be able to in the future.
➔ Do not ‘ghost’:
‘Ghosting’ refers to the practice of cutting communication with
someone without a warning. Though it might seem as though this is the right thing to
do in the moment, it will only cause a hindrance in your healing journey. The lack of
closure will cause further problems, hence it is much better to deal with it in the
Be vocal about how you want your relationship with them to be like. You could end the relationship then and there or tell them that you still want them in your life but not in the same degree as before. This might seem intimidating but it is the most important step in this process.
Recognizing the signs of trust issues:
People who have experienced betrayal in the past often face trust issues that manifest in
newer relationships. These are some symptoms of trust issues:
➔ Fear of being vulnerable
➔ Shy away from commitment
➔ Being overprotective
➔ Doubting people
If you find that some of the above signs are being exhibited by you, please reach out to a
professional as it might turn out to be detrimental to your personal and social life in the
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