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Men's anger management: How Therapy can help

Stressed man holding head and screaming - Visual representation of anger and need for therapy
Emotions run high, but therapy can be the key to managing anger and finding inner peace.

Anger Management for Men: The Role of Therapy


Almost everyone experiences Anger at least once in their lifetime. However, it may become an obstacle if one frequently loses control over anger issues. If your Anger temperament becomes extremely frequent & turns severe at times. As per reports and statistics, Anger issues are more commonly traced in Men than Women. And then the question arises: How to control the Anger?

Sometimes, it is humiliating when one can't take hold of one's Anger issues, especially in public. But through Therapy & specialist help, one can train themself in controlling their Anger. Therapy's primary objective in men's anger management is to reduce stressful or angry-provoking events, enhance self-control, and support healthy emotional expression, which can benefit your mental development in the future.

How Men Mask Their Painful Feelings with Anger

  • Fear: In actuality, Anger is praised and viewed as a Symbol of "Power," whereas a feeling of Fear could be considered a sign of "Weakness." It appears as a sign of Weakness in Society if A man feels Fear and becomes taboo. Sometimes, men's inability to communicate their feelings negatively influences their mental health. Rage is the release of Anger as Fear becomes too much to contain.

  • Shame and Guilt: Shame is the recognition that one is evil, whereas guilt is having sincere regret for transgression. Many males are too afraid to voice this emotion because of its strength. Some theories of shame and guilt characterize them as "self-blaming" feelings and contend that they are vital to developing and maintaining interpersonal connections.

  • Envy and Jealousy: Envy refers to wanting something someone else has, whether it's their possessions, qualities, or achievements. It often involves feelings of resentment or discontentment because you lack what someone else possesses. On the other hand, Jealousy typically arises in the context of perceived threats to a valued relationship. It's the Fear of losing something or someone you already have, like a partner's affection or attention, to a perceived rival.

  • Loneliness: Loneliness has a detrimental effect on mental well-being since humans are not created to live alone. When emotions become more erratic and unpredictable, negative thoughts may linger. Anger at others can grow and become hatred, which can be expressed accidentally or intentionally.

Impact of anger issues on men's lives

A man's life might become complicated by Anger in several ways. Repeatedly triggering the sympathetic nervous system's fight-flight-freeze response, stressing the rest of the body's sensitive systems, may harm their health at a personal level. Relationship-wise, it could affect a person's marriage, parenting skills, friendships, and job, ultimately resulting in burned bridges and legal issues.

The effects of Anger on others are regrettable. Low self-esteem, despair, and Fear can affect partners and their children. Like a person who struggles with Anger, their reaction may be to act out their wrath toward others and the rest of the family. Consequently, the cycle continues to be round and round.

Techniques & Therapies to cope with Anger for men

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This therapy type is frequently used to treat anger issues related to control. A man may learn and practice coping mechanisms and think, feel, and act differently in reaction to Anger, which can potentially make them feel calmer and more in control.

  • Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT): Through the development of emotional management and resilience to distress, mindfulness, and efficient relational communication, DBT is a type of psychological treatment that can assist people who experience Anger regularly in regaining emotional control, which is crucial for their mental health development.

  • Family Therapy: This type of treatment may be beneficial when Anger is frequently directed toward family members. You may collaborate in problem-solving and better communication as a consequence of this.

  • Psychodynamic Therapy: You may discover and change harmful habits by exploring the psychological causes of your Anger and how you react to them with psychodynamic Therapy.

Man sitting in a dark corner with head in hands - Depicting the isolation and distress often felt with anger issues.
In the shadows of anger, there's a path to light through therapy.

How to tell if a man has an Anger problem

It is sometimes difficult to disclose to a person that They have Anger issues because it is possible that they would revert or their Anger issue might get triggered with this simple question, as It might hurt their sentiment about how one can ask such a question. So

first, it is crucial to think about your safety and the protection of others before telling a man that he has an anger issue. Discuss with professional or other social support in a secure public setting. Discussion must occur as soon as feasible. Earlier intervention is better to reiterate.

There must be upfront work. It is critical to comprehend Anger, be aware of available treatments, and understand how to approach a man struggling with wrath. Speaking with specialists may also be beneficial. Ensure that he is calm before speaking. Use harsh language that sets limits while simultaneously expressing love and support.


Although dealing with angry men may be challenging, constructive coping mechanisms exist and would help them recover from this problem. The first step was to acknowledge this issue. Establishing a plan and following it are the next steps. Working through that is beneficial, given the chance of a chronic underlying problem feeding into Anger. Although recovery is difficult and time-consuming, it is achievable through Therapy sessions with counselors and specialists. Project C is here to help!

Written By:

Iva Bogdanova

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