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I Feel Judged: How to Choose The Right Therapist For Me?

It's easy to find the therapist that is the right fit for you. The first session will give you the confidence to overcome all the obstacles. Discover little-known details about selecting the best therapist and answer your questions about the first appointment that requires some specific preparations. Follow the article and learn with teaching experts tips to the end of your self-discovery and well-being.


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The Credentials and Qualifications of a Certified Therapist


There are different academic and licensure criteria, such as college enrollment and passing a licensure exam. In addition to a medical degree, completion of psychiatric residency programs and a licence for clinical practice are requirements for psychiatrists. In contrast, a doctorate degree, supervised clinical experience, and licensure are the best threshold requirements for a psychologist.


Aside from receiving clinical supervised practices, therapists are also required to practise professional development and have at least a master's degree to be accredited and licensed. It follows that such knowledge applies to all mental health professionals as well. 



Which Psychotherapy Methods Your Therapist Used?

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1. Psychodynamic and Psychoanalysis therapy


Through the recognition of unconscious undertones that play out in the form of negative attitudes, behaviours, and thoughts, Psychodynamic and psychoanalysis will handle these kinds of issues. The psychotherapist here and the patients as a team become a close-knit group, allowing the patient to gain self-awareness by self-analysis. 


2. Behaviour Therapy


Behaviour therapy, an aspirational one, is a therapy in which behavioural change is attained using reinforcement and aversion therapy. It narrows down the specific behaviours that produce low mood and difficulty in performing tasks to enhance physical well-being and can be applied to curb various psychological conditions like phobias, anxiousness, and depression


3. Integrative or Holistic Therapy


Integral therapy is an intensive method of therapy that comprises all four dimensions of the patient. Care is taken of the patient's mental, emotional, physical and also spiritual aspects. Integrating different approaches to healing, which include individual and spiritual development, has been at the forefront of therapeutics. The approach for each patient is specifically determined according to his or her needs. The main goal of integrative or holistic therapy is to learn the connection between mind and body, to love yourself, and to improve your personal development.


4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT


Among different psychological treatments targeting several mental diseases, there is CBT or cognitive behavioural therapy. For instance, eating disorders, addiction, anxiety disorders, cases of depression, and schizophrenia are some mental problems that need this treatment. Several methods and skills that are included in these sessions are considered to be simply the redirection of the patient's thoughts and the pattern of behaviours with the application of adequate methods of coping. During CBT sessions, the therapist teaches the patients new skills to work on and puts them in before getting useful habits and coping strategies for future life.


5. Humanistic Therapy


With humanistic psychology, it is a meaning-centred therapy that focuses on personal development, individuality, and being open to positive transformation. With humanistic psychology, it is a meaning-centred therapy that focuses on personal development, individuality, and being open to positive transformation. It was intended as the alternative to behaviourist and psychoanalytic models. The fact that the therapist creates a judgement-free environment wherein patients can let go of their shells and find out more about themselves to reach their goals is great. This approach would be better as it enables a patient to cope with struggles associated with one's identity, self-worth, and quality of life since it is a technique that draws strength from the present moment, personal accountability, and an analysis of one's understanding of feelings and values.



"I don't like my therapist"-stories From Others


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  • Effective treatment depends on working with a psychologist who can empathize with you and make a connection that would mark the beginning of the therapy. Being understood and encouraged will make you feel closer to your therapist so you could be more willing to give out your inner feelings. A therapist who is keen on listening to your problems provides empathy and makes you feel better and consequently, your healing begins.  

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  • Opting for a therapist who restrains from self-disclosing ensures a managing experience in which the focus on the patient’s needs and experiences. This is an essential aspect of counselling as it helps not to infringe on professional boundaries and keeps the environment neutral, promoting a safe place for exploration without distractions or prejudices. 



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  • Picking a therapist who produces a judgment-free environment and considers punctuality as an accepted norm is super critical in creating psychologically safe and effective spaces. Further to that, punctuality displayed regularly emphasizes the value of a patient's time which, in turn, enhances reliability and promotes the feeling of trust in the therapeutic relationship.



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  • The role of a therapist is that they have to be there for their patients, helping them build up a space where they feel; that they can not be judged and that they can express their feelings and thoughts freely. The therapist's unconditional help can open up the way toward self-healing and improve the patient's self-understanding.



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  • Therapy is essential for both personal development and emotional health. By offering a framework for comprehending difficulties, allowing strategies to be tailored to address particular symptoms and underlying issues, directing treatment planning, and promoting communication among healthcare professionals, a diagnosis enhances the efficacy of therapy. Therefore, to improve your therapeutic journey, talk to your therapist about the possibility of receiving a diagnosis. 



Being open and truthful about emotions and experiences creates a favourable advantage. Having an open mind to experimenting with novel therapeutic methods and approaches can also enhance the sessions by enabling customised approaches that meet the needs of each individual. In the end, proactive and communicative behaviour along with an openness to inquiry and education can greatly enhance the quality of the therapy sessions.




Evaluate How You Fit With Your Therapist


  • You feel safe

Establishing a secure environment is essential to a successful therapeutic outcome. A safe space fosters vulnerability, open communication, and personal development. Finally, a safe space is necessary for trauma-informed care for clients who have suffered trauma.


  • Listen to your instinct

Don't ignore your uneasiness if it arises during therapy. Express your feelings to your therapist. You can give them another try and if they are unable to meet your needs then it is acceptable to break up with them.


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  • Feeling of connection

You and your therapist must have a good working relationship in which you feel at ease

enough to discuss your feelings and ideas. Additionally, you ought to sense that your therapist is encouraging and genuinely interested in your general well-being. Your therapist should ideally be someone you confide in and feel at ease asking for advice from. 


  • Accomplishment expertise

Most therapists will have at least a master’s degree in therapy, counselling, psychology, or

social work and will be licensed by the state, meaning they've gone through the necessary supervised experience and educational requirements to see clients on their own. Your mental health therapist should have the necessary skills, experience and expertise to assist your needs.


Practical Assessment in Getting a Therapist


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  • Advice

If you just got to a therapy session, consider all the advice and tips you can use, intently look through them, and maybe give them a try. Take from people and never forget that everyone has to deal with their specific issues, so a method that proved effective in others' lives might not work on you as well, even though it might be inspiring to see that a lot of people share their opinions or experiences.


  • Cost

Establishing or seeking out therapist costs before availing help is important. It is an all-around solution for meeting obligations and not having to worry about the money. If given time and attention, it provides the window where the mind can observe and explore different treatment options and buy what fits the patient's needs and affordability requirements.


  • Location

It is essential to evaluate the therapist's availability and location when thinking of getting into therapy. The atmosphere of the therapist's office, accessibility consideration, and geographical location can all affect how your therapy experience overall. A more productive relationship with therapists and more regularity in therapy attendance can be facilitated by a setting that compliments your everyday schedule and surrounds you with comfort and reflection.


Project C Relevant Therapists


The Project C Foundation offers professional mental and emotional support therapy around the clock for only $24, a big step in increasing access to mental health services for a larger population. Financial barriers are removed by this quick and inexpensive support system, guaranteeing that people can get expert help whenever they need it without having to worry about paying excessive fees.


This approach highlights the significance of quick and inexpensive interventions while acknowledging the urgency associated with mental health issues. This initiative not only democratises mental health care but also highlights the dedication to fostering a culture by providing instant support for everyone to qualified therapists at an affordable price.


  • Stress, Depression and Anxiety Management

  • Self Awareness

  • Relationship Counseling

  • Mental Health in Adolescents


  • Stress, Anxiety and Depression Management, 

  • Career Counselling

  • Grief Management

  • Relationship Counselling

  •  Mindfulness 


  • Children, Adolescents and Adult Counselling

  • Relationship Counselling

  • Self Development

  • Anxiety and Stress Management

  • Counselling in Psychology


  • Educational Psychology 

  • Industrial and Organisational Psychology


  • Stress, Anxiety, and Depression Counselling

  • Grief Management

  • Relationship Counselling

  • Mindfulness

  • Clinical Psychology


  • Interpersonal Relationships

  • Marriage Counselling 

  • Stress Management

  • Communication Management

  • Group Therapy



Written By Ethil Besana

Edited by Virginia Helzainka


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